Dating a sex addict relationship advice
But while movies and music nearly always have a happy ending, Riley’s reality was much different: “I was spending much too much time balled up on the floor in the fetal position, clutching my belly, just wanting to die because some guy hadn’t called me back.”At age 42, after getting clean from a cocaine addiction, Riley eventually realized the anguish she felt over parting ways with a man was lasting “longer than the so-called relationship,” she says.“I would date someone for six weeks and I would suffer over it for six months.Charlene de Guzman says her sex addiction started as a “hunger for love and attention and validation.” For her, the confusion came from misplaced messages about her self-worth.“I had this story from a very early age that a woman who was sexually desired, a woman who was sexual, a woman men wanted to have sex with, was of value,” she told .An ex Charlene de Guzman had slept with wasn’t texting her back.
Or [actually] having a relationship with your married boss—[I’ve] done that more than once! “Running around with married men was just, like, ‘This is so fun! I just get all the good, fun parts and they treat me like a princess and we don’t have to argue about bills or any of the dull parts!
“[With sex addiction] it’s not really about the person,” Hudson says.
“People become objects to be used and not people to be related to.”Our society mostly focuses on guys with sex addiction because, well, from the outside their spiraling-out looks pretty juicy.
As Gwyneth Paltrow’s character jokes in the 2014 film In reality, sex addiction is much more complicated—and it doesn’t only affect men.
Just as an alcoholic continues overdrinking even when it does her harm, a sex and love addict seeks out emotional and physical fulfillment from others, even when it hurts her.